Carrot, Bean, or Egg? Which are you?

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things are so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seems as one problem was solved a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them boil without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she labeled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, tell me, what do you see?

Carrots, eggs, and coffee, she replied. She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. She then asked her to take an egg and break it, after pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally she asked her to sip the coffee.

The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich flavor. Then she asked, what does it mean mother? Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity, boiling water, but each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong hard and unrelenting. However after being subjected to the boiling water it softened and became weak. The egg has been fragile. Its thin outer shell have protected its a liquid interior. But after sitting through the boiling water, it’s inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique however. After they were in the boiling water they had changed the water.

Which are you? She asked her daughter. When adversity knocks on your door how do you respond?

Think of this: which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity, do I will too and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit but after a death, breakup, financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same but on the inside and my bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate to another level?

How do you handle adversity?